incompatible lifestyle

Posted by: coppito
25/02/08 at 9:20 am

I am the father of a bright 6 year old boy.  Separated from his mother for 3 maybe 4 years.

He has lived with his mother for all this time, his mother though loving can be emotionally unstable, and had bouts of depression, with issues regarding drug, alcohol abuse, self harm and generally reckless behaviour, and by her own admission can be neglectful and does not prioritise him as she should.  As a consequence we have had quite a few disagreements regarding this and his general care. 

Work until now has made it impractical for me for financial reasons to take over custody as without my financial input, she and he would in all probability be on the streets.

However recently I have had to reassess this position because it is evident that as a response to her lifestyle choices she has lost all confidence in her decision making and started making very bad ones! Namely joining a bdsm website and submitting herself to slavery to one of the members.  Her aim is to give up total control of her life to him a term known as TPE ( total power exchange) essential allowing him to take control of all matters in her life.

In addition the are both completely indiscreet, and post there exploits on public web forums for all to see! There are also times when i have visited the house to see various bondage paraphernalia strewn round the house, magazines etc!

This obviously is her choice and she is welcome to make it but this choice is completely incompatible for the mother of my child, and I cannot in any conscience allow her to continue with custody of my son in this environment.

What is the best way for me to proceed with obtaining custody of my son, what are my rights?